We only ever met at family get-togethers but last year she came to live nearby and the more I saw her, the more I wanted her. It was a dream come true when we finally had sex a couple of weeks ago, after I had popped over to fix her boiler. It feels like sexy fun now but the outcome will almost certainly be disastrous — and wreck your marriage. Mid-life is around the corner but you are not over the hill and your sex life with your wife can be as exciting, in fact more so, than dangerous sex with anyone else. I was thrilled when I first found out I was pregnant but at the four-month scan I was told my baby had died and I was admitted for surgery. Then he came round saying he was sorry and he loved me and, like an idiot, I took him back.